Downloadable Workbook · England & Wales
The first three months
are the ones that matter most.
Most people navigate the first 90 days reactively — putting out fires with no sense of what they should be doing and when. This workbook gives you a week-by-week structure so you're doing the right things at the right time, not realising six months later that you should have done something in week two.
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13 weeks
3 phases
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Not legal advice — practical guidance
Is this for you?
This works best if you're in the first few months
You don't need to be at day one. The plan works whether you're just separated, a few weeks in, or starting to realise the first month was more chaotic than it needed to be and you want to get organised.
You're recently separated and don't know what you should be doing first, second or at all
You've got legal proceedings starting and want to be ahead of them rather than catching up
You're the organised one who needs a framework to work from, not just a list of things to worry about
You want to understand the process without spending £300 an hour to be told what the next step is
You have children and want to make sure the first weeks set the right tone for everything that follows
You're already a few months in and feeling like you've been reactive — you want to get ahead of it
This isn't for you if you're looking for legal advice, a replacement for a solicitor, or a magic shortcut to a resolved settlement. It's a workbook — it does the work with you, not instead of you.
The structure
Three phases. Thirteen weeks.
The 90 days is divided into three phases that reflect what actually needs to happen — not an optimistic version of how quickly divorce resolves, but an honest week-by-week guide to the period that shapes everything that follows.
1
Phase One · Weeks 1–4
Survive
Immediate stabilisation
- What actually needs doing this week
- Securing your financial position
- Getting legal advice right
- Children — the first conversations
2
Phase Two · Weeks 5–9
Understand
The process becomes real
- The divorce application — what it means
- Building your full asset inventory
- The family home — your options
- Pensions — the asset most get wrong
- How to approach negotiation
3
Phase Three · Weeks 10–13
Get Ahead
Position for what's next
- Honest assessment of where you are
- Children long-term — the right conversation
- Your budget going forward
- The next 90 days — what to expect
What's inside — all 13 weeks
Every week has a clear job to do
Each week includes a focus statement, a prioritised task list with printable tick boxes, a key insight on what most people get wrong, and a practical reflection prompt. Not therapy — organised thinking.
Week 1The first week — what actually needs doing right now
Week 2Money — securing your financial position immediately
Week 3Getting legal — what to do before you instruct anyone
Week 4Children — the first conversations and what not to do
Week 5The divorce application — what it means and what it doesn't
Week 6Your financial picture — building your full asset inventory
Week 7The family home — your options and how to think about them
Week 8Pensions — the asset most people get wrong
Week 9Negotiating — how to approach the financial settlement
Week 10Where you actually are — honest assessment of the legal timeline
Week 11Children long-term — starting the parenting conversation properly
Week 12Your money going forward — what your budget looks like now
Week 13The next 90 days — what to expect and how to stay ahead
Why it's written this way
Warm. Practical. No waffle.
Most divorce resources are either legally dry or emotionally overwrought. This workbook is neither. It acknowledges that this is genuinely difficult — and then gets on with helping you deal with it.
Honest about the timeline
Phase 3 isn't "the other side" — because at 90 days you almost certainly aren't finished. It's "get ahead" — the position you want to be in when the process continues. No false optimism.
Prioritised task lists
Each week's tasks are ordered. You do the most important things first. When the week is overwhelming — and some weeks will be — you know what to do and what can wait.
Practical reflection prompts
Not therapeutic journalling. Each prompt asks a specific question with a specific purpose — "What is your monthly income right now?" or "What is the minimum outcome you could accept?" Thinking made concrete.
Connected to the free tools
At every relevant point, the plan directs you to the free tools on thiswasntheplan.co.uk — budget calculator, financial worksheet, child maintenance calculator and more. The workbook and the tools work together.
The 90 Day Survival Plan
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Downloadable Workbook · England & Wales
The first three months are the ones that matter most.
Week-by-week structure so you're doing the right things at the right time — not realising six months later you missed something in week two.
Get the Plan £37 →
13 weeks
3 phases
Instant download
30-day guarantee
Is this for you?
This works best if you're in the first few months
✓
You're recently separated and don't know what you should be doing first, second or at all
✓
You've got legal proceedings starting and want to be ahead of them
✓
You want to understand the process without spending £300 an hour
✓
You have children and want the first weeks to set the right tone
✓
You're already a few months in and feeling reactive — you want to get ahead
This isn't for you if you're looking for legal advice or a replacement for a solicitor. It's a workbook — it does the work with you, not instead of you.
The structure
Three phases. Thirteen weeks.
1
Phase One · Weeks 1–4
Survive
Immediate stabilisation
- What actually needs doing this week
- Securing your financial position
- Getting legal advice right
- Children — the first conversations
2
Phase Two · Weeks 5–9
Understand
The process becomes real
- The divorce application
- Building your full asset inventory
- The family home — your options
- Pensions — the asset most get wrong
- How to approach negotiation
3
Phase Three · Weeks 10–13
Get Ahead
Position for what's next
- Honest assessment of where you are
- Children long-term
- Your budget going forward
- The next 90 days — what to expect
All 13 weeks
Every week has a clear job to do
Focus statement, prioritised tasks, key insight, reflection prompt. Not therapy — organised thinking.
Week 1What actually needs doing right now
Week 2Money — securing your financial position immediately
Week 3Getting legal — what to do before you instruct anyone
Week 4Children — the first conversations and what not to do
Why it's written this way
Warm. Practical. No waffle.
Honest about the timeline
Phase 3 isn't "the other side" — it's "get ahead." No false optimism about how quickly this resolves.
Prioritised task lists
Tasks are ordered. When the week is overwhelming — and some will be — you know what to do and what can wait.
Practical reflection prompts
Not journalling. Specific questions with specific purposes — "What is your monthly income right now?" Thinking made concrete.
Connected to the free tools
At every relevant point, the plan points to the free tools on the site — budget calculator, financial worksheet, child maintenance calculator.
The 90 Day Survival Plan
£37 — instant download
A PDF workbook. Print it, annotate it, work through it at your own pace. Buy once — it's yours.
Get the Plan £37 →
Instant PDF download
30-day guarantee
VAT included
England & Wales