The guide you needed
from day one.
A practical guide to divorce in England & Wales
No jargon. No grief stages. No impossible standards. Written by someone who has been through it and figured out what actually helps.
Written by someone who
went through it.
Divorce rarely arrives with a clear plan. More often it begins as a quiet knowing that something fundamental has shifted — and isn't shifting back. Then it becomes paperwork, solicitor fees, difficult conversations with your children, and a process that nobody explained to you at any point.
This book was written to cut through that. Not by a therapist or a legal professional, but by someone who navigated UK divorce and came out the other side with a clear view of what actually helps and what doesn't. The aim is straightforward: give you the information you need to make better decisions, reduce your reliance on expensive professional advice for things you can figure out yourself, and help you protect what matters — your finances, your children, and your sense of who you are.
Every chapter is grounded in real experience, UK-specific law, and the kinds of questions people are actually asking at 2am. You don't need to read it in order. Start wherever you are right now.
Six parts. One complete guide.
From the first shock through to building a life that fits who you are now. You don't need to read it in order — start wherever feels most relevant.
- Understanding the emotional impact and avoiding early mistakes
- Stabilising before you strategise
- Managing friends, family and social pressure
- The admin nobody warns you about
- UK divorce law explained like a human
- Money, assets and the reality check
- The family home and housing decisions
- Co-parenting and doing the least damage possible
- Solicitors, mediation and when conflict escalates
- Protecting yourself without going to war
- Grief, anger, relief and identity
- Rebuilding routines, time and energy
- Dating, loneliness and doing no further damage
- Work, parenting and burnout after divorce
- Recognising pressure tactics and holding your ground
- How time is used as a negotiation lever
- Confidence, boundaries and self-respect
- What actually matters in retrospect
- Permission to hold complexity
- Building a life that fits who you are now
Not another self-help divorce book.
Most divorce books are written by therapists or solicitors. This one is written by someone who went through it. That's a different book.
- Grief stages and emotional frameworks
- Journalling exercises and self-reflection prompts
- Written by professionals who haven't been through it
- Generic advice applicable anywhere in the world
- Chapters you have to read start to finish
- Assumes you'll spend whatever the solicitor charges
- Direct answers grounded in real-life experience
- Practical guidance you can act on today
- Written by someone who went through it in England and Wales
- England & Wales specific throughout — law, process, terminology
- Six parts you can dip into wherever you are right now
- Helps you cut costs by knowing when you need a solicitor and when you don't
Get the early bird price
when it launches.
One email when the book is live. No build-up, no drip campaign. Just a note that it's ready — with a discount for people who waited.
In the meantime — explore the free tools, download the guides, or read the blog.